Showing posts with label Sweden. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Sweden. Show all posts

Monday, October 22, 2012

eyes wide open: when you miss the kiss {day 22}

With eyes of wonder, I clutched my dolly, Snuggles, as we waited in the airport. This would be my first airplane ride ever. We were going across the ocean to visit Grandma and Grandpa Aberg (pronounced Oberg). There is no way my four year old mind could wrap around how far it actually was to Sweden. But, I felt safe by my mommy and daddy's side. Snuggles in one arm, my other hand tightly clasping Daddy's. 


the flower girls (I am on the left)
My Uncle Birger (Bir-yer) was marrying a cute young lady named Karin. I was going to be a flower girl with my cousin, Ing-Marie. We had matching pink dresses, matching necklaces, matching white gloves and matching headbands with real flowers in them. I felt like a princess.


The beautifully ornate little church was filling with freshly pressed dresses and starched shirts. My mommy told me to be sure and pay attention during the ceremony because the bride and groom were going to kiss! As a four year old, I guess this was something as big as seeing Mickey and Minnie Mouse at Disneyland. From my recollection, this event in the ceremony was the one thing to be sure to see. 


the famous "kiss"
Walking carefully down the aisle beside Ing-Marie, with basket of rose petals in my left hand, I took my place beside my uncle and I waited with four-year-old wonder. And watched. I waited and watched some more. The preacher spoke everything in Swedish. gibberish to my four-year-old self. All I could think about was when are they going to kiss? 

Then, I missed it.

 I don't know if I was zoomed in on the preacher's fru-fru robe, or if I turned to look at mommy and daddy in the congregation. But, at that precise moment when I looked away, it happened. I was so disappointed that I missed the kiss.


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Somewhere along the way to growing up, I've had to learn to pay attention to wonder. It doesn't just happen the way it did when I was four. How does it happen that wonder slips out the back door when we're little, but then later beckons to be found?

 I now prize those four-year-old eyes that were so eager to see that one solitary wedding kiss. Eyes that were full of wonder. Something deep inside me whispers, even though you missed the kiss that day, don't miss the wonder.  

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Sunday, October 7, 2012

eyes wide open: Dad and the old folks {day 7}

My Dad at 19 with the old folks
Happy Sunday, friends! Like one of my posts mentioned, I've been cleaning out a closet this week. This means lots more pictures of my Aunt Esther and Uncle Carl to sort through, and lots of pictures of my dad.  I decided to post a picture that I came across because you know what they say. A picture is worth a thousand words. The picture was taken Thanksgiving of 1951.  My dad is in the center. He is nineteen. And surrounded by old folks.

Pictures of my dad are pretty precious to me. He died in 1989 from Parkinson's disease when he was 57 and I was twenty five and I had a one year old son.

Dad came from Sweden when he was a teenager.(I have a post about that, too.) He came to Holdrege, Nebraska to help his Uncle Carl work on the farm. The USA got a hold of his soul and he stayed all of his life. 

When he got to America, his Aunt and Uncle were already up in years. I guess not retired from farming yet though. This photo is taken with his Aunt Esther's siblings from Gothenberg, Nebraska. What is kind of comical is how, as a teen, my Dad was constantly in the company of 'old people'.  I wonder how he felt about that? He looks like one Lone Ranger teenager in this picture, doesn't he? Aunt Esther and Uncle Carl became like second parents to him, though. Aunt Esther taught him the English language. He knew nothing when he got here at the ripe old age of sixteen.


What fascinates me about this photo are a few things:


  1. my dad is the same age as my youngest child is now
  2. it is uncanny how much my oldest son who is 24 right now looks like my dad in this photo
  3. this same table is in my kitchen right now--almost 61 years later!
  4. Aunt Esther and her sister, Louise (on the far right), seem to be having way too much fun on a day that they probably spent most of it in the kitchen. See the apron? Aunt Esther's got her arm casually thrown around her sister's shoulder. Smile.

Our history can tell us a lot. 

I'm glad my dad came to America. I'm glad he met my mom and they had me. I think about that sometimes. That if my dad didn't have that adventuresome spirit to travel to America, I would not be here. Deep thoughts for a Sunday afternoon, huh?

Oh, and I am just so curious the kinds of conversations my kitchen table has heard over the years!! Wouldn't you like to know?!?


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Sunday, July 1, 2012

A Swede comes to America--A father's story

My dad's passport
When my dad was sixteen, he got on a boat in Sweden bound for America. He made the journey alone. The year was 1948. 

A few years ago, I crafted a fictional story, based on his actual trip to America, to enter into a short story contest. I didn't win a prize, but I sure enjoyed musing about what kinds of things my dad could have been thinking as he left his family in Sweden, bound for a new land. 

As I think about his desire to immigrate to America all by himself, I have simultaneous thoughts of admiration and shock. As a mom to young adults myself, I am shocked that his mother would let him go! I admire his courage and adventurous spirit. 

Several years prior to his immigration, his Uncle Carl had immigrated to Nebraska farm country. My dad was en route to help his uncle on the farm . Below, you will find my fictional story based on true events. I hope you enjoy it as much as I enjoyed writing it!



The Swede

Karl’s little red house in the forest was the only home he had ever known. Now he was leaving it. He was preparing in his heart to say good bye. Not many words were spoken on the way to the dock. Much was left unspoken.


After hugging little brother Bertil until his arms ached, he squeezed sisters Marta and Inga. Mama and Papa were next. Mama cradled his face in her hands and looked deeply into his soft gray eyes. She could only whisper. 

“Karl, I know you will be fine. Joseph is eagerly awaiting your arrival and has good work there for you. We love you. Please don’t forget to write your Mama and Papa.” 

That was all she could say before emotion overtook her. Karl understood. He couldn’t talk much either. He struggled to hold back tears, just as his Papa did. A man should keep his emotions in check.

It was April 19, 1948. The Gothenberg loomed like an ominous gray mountain in the cool morning mist. Karl felt his heart flutter like a hummingbird as he approached the crisply uniformed purser hailing “All aboard!” to those with third class tickets. He shuffled along with  throngs of swarming passengers. Karl turned to wave good bye one last time. Yes, they were still there. Like statues, except each had an arm waving furiously. Karl couldn’t tell if his mama and sisters were still crying. Papa’s face was solemn, but peaceful. Karl knew his papa believed in him. One hot tear escaped Karl’s eye and ran down his cheek. Of course he would miss them! His little family. His little red home in the forest.

Just as Karl turned his gaze from his family, the ship’s thunderous horn blew and Karl thought he would jump right out of his skin. He boarded the ship with his small weathered suitcase in hand and his tweed cap firmly pressed on his wavy blond hair. He would be fine. Those were Mama’s parting words.

His third class cabin was plain. The sheets on his bunk were slightly worn, but neat and clean. A small sink stood alone in the corner, but there was room for nothing else. Not even a window, Karl thought. He gently set down his brown duffle and eased himself carefully onto the lower berth, his hand running over the wool blanket.  He let himself feel the sorrow of leaving his family behind, but was at the same time full of excitement. Come to think of it, he was hungry! The lunch Mama packed him could wait until later. It was coffee time, almost a religion in Sweden and he wanted to find the nearest place to get some. The key turned easily to lock the door of his cabin and he took off down the hallway.

The coffee room was already brimming with mostly Swedish travelers. Steaming cups of strong, black liquid littered all the table tops, with a Swede perched in front of each cup. Nervously, Karl searched the room for an empty chair. There was none. His hungry stomach and the little bit of Kronor in his pocket kept him standing there, looking. 

Suddenly, a young man behind a wooden counter was smiling and waving him over, “Hey….Boy…over here!” 

The next thing he knew, Karl was sitting in the last open spot at the counter with the telltale cup of coffee and a half sandwich.
“Name’s Rudolf Andersson, you can call me Rudy. What’s yours?”

“Karl Aberg”, he said above the chatter of other coffee drinking Swedes.

“Where ya headed…..I mean after ya get to New York? Are ya travlin’ alone?”

Karl spoke hesitantly, “I have an uncle in Nebraska. I’m taking the train there to stay with him. Yah, I’m travlin’ alone.”

“Yah? What will ya do there?”

“My uncle has a farm. I will help my uncle with work there.” said Karl timidly.  

“Ah…how old are ya? Ya don’t seem old enough to be travlin’ alone.”

“Sixteen and one half. I just made the cut off for travlin' alone.“

“Twenty one here. I took this job on the Gothenberg to earn my way to America. Been workin’ ‘bout four months. A couple more and I’ll be on my way to the land of milk ‘n honey!”

Karl realized that his hands had been gripping his coffee cup as if it were his life preserver. He loosened his grip and took a bite of his sandwich as he thought about how kind Rudy was, and how these days at sea might not be so lonely after all.

“Ahh, yah. Where ya from, I mean what part of Sweden?”

“Ljungby, in south central Sweden. You?”

“Uppsala, near Stockholm.”  Rudy spoke briskly with a thoughtful and inquisitive look on his face. “You happen to know Goran Nuvall? He's from around Ljungby and worked on my cousin's tree farm.”

Karl warmed to the young Swede's friendliness and his eyes brightened as if someone lit a match behind them. “Yes! My oldest sister went to school with him, but I haven't seen him in some time!” 

Rudy shook his head in disbelief and amazement and refilled coffee for a Swede at the counter. The conversation between these two young men continued on for days like they had been old friends.  Karl was indeed grateful for someone to talk to on this long voyage. Someone who reminded him of home.

The next ten days on the Gothenberg seemed to go by quickly, especially with Rudy's companionship. Fear, anticipation and relief swirled around inside of Karl as the boat neared its destination. He certainly was not sad to leave it! The suffocating cabin, crowds of people, and nausea…others’ and his own had almost gotten the best of him. 

Karl had his small brown bag in hand and his tweed hat was again pressed firmly on his head. He was ready. His hand went to his breast pocket to feel for his passport. It was there. As he fell in line with the other passengers ready to disembark, he could see the captain and the first mate on deck in their stark white jackets dismissing passengers. Another officer stood beside them, with a starched blue uniform. Karl wondered who he might be.

“Son, may I see your passport?”

My dad's passport stamp
Karl was not sure what he said, and a wave of fear washed over him. The serious faced officer repeated himself. 

“Son, may I see your passport?”. 

By his hand gestures, Karl finally understood what the man meant and took his passport out of his pocket and handed it over. The officer asked Karl a few more questions, but of course, Karl did not understand. That is all he could say in English, “I do not understand.”

The line was backed up behind Karl and he was getting more anxious. He finally understood that the officials were not going to allow him off the ship because he did not know English. His heart sank as if to the bottom of the harbor. Had he come all this way….all the way from Sweden, only to be sent back home? More waves of panic and nausea swept over him as he stood there with his shoulders slumped and his face to the ground.


“Hey….over here!” It was Rudy! “Is there a problem here?”, he spoke in English to the official.  The blue uniformed man repeated himself. 
“I’ll vouch for him!” cried Rudy. “I’ll make sure he gets to where he’s goin’.” 

After asking Rudy to confirm his identity, the official got an incredulous look on his face and said gruffly, “All right. Make sure he gets to the Port Terminal and through Immigrant Registration. It’s a matter of this boy’s safety on our shores.” 

Rudy looked at Karl with a knowing grin and translated the news to him. Karl smiled back, and without reservation walloped Rudy with a hug so hard, Rudy thought he would suffocate. 

“Tack so mycket!”, cried Karl with relief and gratitude. Rudy spoke with a calm brotherly voice, “You'll be fine.” He would be okay, Karl thought with an audible sigh. Those were mama’s parting words.









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